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Hi guys,

It is sad that this forum is all quiet now, it has been a great resource of very useful insights.

I don’t have much international experience, but the women in London are tougher than say back home in Bulgaria. But then again there are so many of them and from many diverse backgrounds, that it averages out I think – you get rejected more, but there is more opportunity.

I really want to go to the US to try stuff over there, NY seems very promising, London 2.0 almost, hehe 🙂

In Bulgaria (although biased) I think the girls are gorgeous, especially in the summer near the sea is a great place to approach. However, I did not have much success as my game was not as good. I find that most women back home have never been in a direct daygame approach, so are really surprised and react well – my sets hooked much more frequently. Night game tends to be clubs mostly, with loud music and alcohol. That works, but is not for me.

I think the main thing is what you guys said about experimenting and tailoring your approach to your environments.

Also just a mention to TopShop on Oxford Street. As Jonny had previously said it is heaven on earth. However, the bouncers are not too happy with a guy doing a set of 20 approaches in there, so take a bit of care.

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Hi MrAntiquity and Eric,

Thanks for the responses. It makes sense to wait a bit and I agree with it completely, when you lay it out like this. I guess I was scared that if I wait too long when she isn’t yet invested in me she could find another guy and lose interest for me. But I guess that is always a possibility, regardless of whether you wait a day or five.

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You’re right @SomeguyUK I think it is just being aware, and acting on your knowledge, not emotions e.g. you know you should approach, but your emotions telling you not to.

It is difficult to do so of course. But still a better option than trying to change how you feel before you act. Confidence the action, comes before confidence the feeling in most cases, I think.

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Yes, as well as being Brad Pit and all of that. But we play with what we get.

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Hi MrAntiquity,

If I can warm up (i.e. when in London) I can ask for numbers, insta-dates etc. I do kino and sexual talk. I tease and am sometimes confident. I have gone on a few dates and had a few make outs, but I still get stuck at going for the make out a lot of times. And obviously anything that follows 😀

But I think it is getting easier. I just have very few dates and very few chances to practice going for a make out and escalating from there.

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I think this is the case.

Personally, I find an action to replicate is sometimes easier, another time it is easier to integrate a mindset. Very personal, I think.

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Thanks for the suggestions Cartoox, will check them out.

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Thanks a bunch, guys. I will definitely read these.

Regards,
Zhelyazko

If I can make a recommendation of my own of a couple of recently read books that made a good impression on me:
The Four Hour Chef – Tim Ferris (how to learn any skill faster)
The Seven Habits of Effective People – Steven Covey (useful habits to aim to incorporate over time)

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Good stuff SomeguyUK. It is inspiring to try and follow in your footsteps. Good to hear all the work is paying off.

I am currently working on making my conversations more interesting as they tend to get stale in more than half of my sets.

Keep going strong.

Regards,
Zhelyazko

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I second that! The posts are always interesting to read. And might drive some traffic to this forum.

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Same. Forum does not let me post sometimes, though.

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Good going, buddy. Keep at it!

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Great job SomeguyUK! Keep pushing the envelope. Trying to follow suit.

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Great to see you getting results SomeguyUK! Super happy for you!

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@SomeguyUK It is very hard indeed. I often wonder how other people can do it without having to have studied this, but I guess some part of my brain just did not develop during childhood 😀

@Cartoox So it is crucial to steer the conversation. Note taken. Steering towards sexual topics and topics that are important to you so you can challenge her on it, right?

Regards,
Zhelyazko

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