thanks these are really good observations and you’re right the woman that gave me this advice didn’t find me the least bit attractive. I have another issue where we are supposed to engage everyone we meet such as clerks at fast food restaurants and retail stores etc. in order to practice our conversation skills. well unfortunately all the female clerks in stores these days are practically teenagers and when I attempt ant sort of convo at all they assume I am trying to pick them up and they get all stand offish and weirded out (I am much older than they are). so I do not want to engage store clerks at all anymore.
thanks that’s very perceptive because I do suffer from anxiety and also a hypersensitive personality which means that any form of rejection affects me many times more than with a normal personality. I was told by a female friend once not to do anything if she isn’t smiling. I also believe what you said about not gauging a girls receptiveness by her demeanor,I have heard this before and I myself often look “upset” to others but I am actually very friendly. it is very hard to consider approaching however when women have their “bitch shields” up. what do you think of the adage that we should not take advice about women from women?