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Women’s words and text don’t mean shit. If you recall she used to call me her King, baby etc… She still ended up
With another dude, due to my needy behavior.
Don’t ever try to fix shit. That’s being needy.
Heyyyyy everyone how have you guys been? I figured it would only be fare that I update you guys especially Lee, since you guys invested a few minutes of your life in my situation. I hope you guys had a great summer.
Sooooooo, as you might expect I kept fucking up with this girl. As much as I saw Lee’s coaching work and as much as I saw me being evasive working, I just kept fucking up and losing it with needy behavior, to the point the girl was seeing a totally different guy.
When that happened (About April/May) I said to myself fuck this, I don’t need this, I can do better, fuck this bitch blah blah blah
I started giving other women a legit chance. I was not spending time with them to forget the other chick or to game the other chick but to actually find someone to chill with and be happy. Not to be with someone who I wanted to be happy with.
When I made that bold move. I started meeting other women and other women, getting laid here and there. Why? Cause the focus was back on myself and it showed.
I applied Lees coaching on all the new chicks and I’m telling you it works. Especially if you never let the chick get any control to begin with.
Well you can assume what happened after….. The chick I was hung up on broke up with whoever dude, messaged me online and gave me her new number. I was just subtle about everything and said cool. Because by this point my Ego is in high gear along with my confidence. Now I do feel I still like the girl, I would be bullshitting you if I told you I wasn’t. But it’s different now and she knows if we hook up then fine and if we never hook up then I’m fine with that too. (Whatever attitude).
Well guess what else happened? If you rewind to the beginning of my story, I’m pretty sure we forgot this started when I was about to get married. Remember my fiancé ? Well guess what, she’s back on the radar. Trying to figure me out and asking if we can maybe have a drink or dinner.
So at the end since I started focusing on myself and putting myself on the pedestal , I have created options of women for myself. Even the girl I was so Inlove with, the girl that I lost myself with, the girl that I thought I could never replace became just an option. Someshit right? as you can see I started this thread a lil over a year ago. Things take time.
This is what I learned and of course using Lee’s guidance which you guys can scroll back on my thread for reference.
1. No matter what, give a girl all the space possible. Let her come to you, let her miss you. (Remove availability, create scarcity, remove attention: Lee) what girls hate the most is a guy who gives them attention. Yes women bitch about the opposite but TRUST ME DoNT Do It!!
2. If she doesn’t come back then the attraction was not there so move on dude.
3. Date other women and focus on yourself but what you have to realize is, You can’t do it for “Mission: get this girl” you have to do it for yourself, to be happy and move on. Trust me the women will come. If you do it for the girl it will show and it will fuck u up.
4. The only way you can impress any woman, I don’t care who the fuck it is, it’s by focusing and improving yourself. (I can’t stress this enough)
5. The most important and the most powerful position a man can be in, is being able to Walk Away. Never ever ever never ever let a woman feel secure in where they stand with you!! NEVER!!!! Let them feel you will walk away and not look back if you ever chose too!! Women are so attracted to men who’s feelings or situations they’re not sure about.
All this leads to what Lee was guiding me with. Again I’m not perfect, I still fuck up but now at least I understand and get it.
Surgery was a few weeks ago. Messages was yesterday and day before.
Yeah we had a 5 text convo about her surgery. I had responded.
I didn’t text today or anything or later that day because I don’t want her to think that she gassed me by calling me king and have me back in her clutches.
Then this morning she posted the meme. I think she’s seeing someone else but reaches out to me, OR that’s going sour with someone else and she’s reaching to me. So if she’s seeing someone else I feel like Inwasted time. You guys know this, she has gotten NO reaction from me.m
Today she posted a meme that says:
If making you happy costs my happiness then I can’t afford you..
Not sure if it’s in relation to me cause it wouldn’t make sense if it was.
She just text me this morning: “Good Morning my King”
Btw Compra is Spanish for Grocery Shopping
My thoughts and attitude is Fuck this Bitch. Even though you guys would of thought that along time ago.
Well I keep my text 3 days a part, last time I initiated was last Thurs which is a week ago. I don’t see where it went wrong, could of been the dinner part but I don’t think it was that serious.
Me: Hey Curvey good morning, or should I admit I had different thoughts this morning?
Her: Yes Admit!!
Her: Good Morning 🙂
Me: I’ll tell you when I see you..
Her: Oh yeah? When will that be?….
Me: Actually it’s your turn
Her: My turn for?
Me: To cook, I also like to be spoiled.
Her: Oh ok. That’s not a problem. I just haven’t cooked since my surgery really. I have no food and haven’t done a Compra cause I can’t carry the bags.
Me: That’s fine, I was using dinner as an excuse to get to the dessert 🙂
Her: No response.
This was at 8:15am and it’s now 2:15PM
This is some funny shit. All of the other women I am dating (Except the main one of this topic) are all hitting me with the exclusive talk. Im like yoooo WTF.
I guess your theories are correct. Why? Because since im so caught up with the main chick, I don’t focus on the others.
It’s also weird because the other chicks are very successful. They own restaraunts, Spa’s, Gyms and the simple school teacher who would infact probably need me (Not that she uses me or I would want to be used) is the one giving me the hard time. Smh
Yeah I date and have a few on the sidelines, but my attention shifts to her. Weird honestly. Im not that young and should know better. All of Lee’s advice and the ones I pick and choose from you guys do work. Things are prolonged due to me screwing it up after. Definitly an obsessive behavior. Why? Who the hell knows. The other women Indate, look better, smarter and bring more to the table. Maybe it’s the challenge? I don’t know.
I follow the game plan and as soon it’s starts to work I screw it up. I guess because I feel if someone is real into you, then it shouldn’t be that complicated. like I stated earlier I don’t know how she hasn’t been turned off and still remains in the picture.
Yeah I just need control again, especially since she knows she has it, Since we’re NOT exclusive because SHE is the one who hasn’t decided that smh. This will probably end up in shit anyway. Shouldnt be complicated but that’s probably why it has me reeled in.
I think I got hit with shock value. If you guys see how I am with other women. You would wonder why I even bother with the forum. My Ego in this situation has been my worst enemy.
What I find peculiar (even though for sure she must be turned off now and then) All my outbursts through out the years and she’s still hangs in my life. (Whether she’s dating people or not).
So now what? (I made a promise to myself to hang tight but if I lose my mind on one more incident then I have to walk away.)
Yes you’re right. Most of the time we know the answers and we just don’t want to face them. After that response it just triggered with me and made me realize ok cool were just casual dating or not committed. (I just didnt want to wait forever).
As far as the lie she had went to the movies with her son. She’s not a movie person so I asked who did you go with? She said with my son. So the other day I was hanging out with her son and he mentioned the movie. I was like was it good cause mom didnt like it. He says it was cool that he and Mommy’s friend liked it. I said Mommy’s friend? Ok.
So I asked her who you went to movies with? She said my son. Yeah but who else went? Then she goes with my friend. I was taking my son and he asked to go with us. I asked he? A male friend? She goes male or she whats the difference? A friend is a friend
Blah blah blah
So I remember before my failed trip I thought she had lied and Lee said to cancel the trip for lying and not to give explanations. So I thought it was the same advice and pulled Her collar on lying.
I just feel like she’ll have me waiting for ever. Even though that would be my stupid choice.
When I mentioned a Lie to her. I cancelled a date we were going on and said fuck this for lying. She responded:
Wow really? A Lie and keep things away from you? I would really love to know what you know that I don’t? I don’t need to lie to you! We’re not married or in a committed relationship. where I should even be a tad bit afraid to tell you anything