[mikeyR]

Hey Eric, I happened to be scrolling through some old convo topics and stumbled on this one. I know it was years ago, but do you remember how your wait a week or two strategy before contacting after the date went with this chick. I literally went on a 1st date 2 night ago with a very hot girl and had an extremely similar type date to the one you described here. Did some good things, but could have done better. It ended with a quick peck before we parted ways. It was just an OK date. I still haven’t contacted her nor has she contacted me. Like you said about your girl, I assume guys are usually falling over themselves for this girl, so I wanna be a little different. I plan on waiting a few more days before I contact her.

But really I was just wondering how waiting a week or more worked for you in this situation.

[mikeyR]

Thanks for the advice. Pretty much along the lines of what I was thinking.

Question though, If I ping her and she isn’t showing much interest shouldn’t I just assume it’s over. I mean what would suddenly cause her to be more interested after I wait a week and ping again? It’d essentially be 2+ weeks since the last them we saw each other.

[mikeyR]

Thanks for the advice fellas,

Just to give a quick update, I invited her over for dinner and a movie. We never made it past the opening credits before I got her in my bed. We fooled around for quite a while, but she was showing some resistance to sex. I kept casually pushing for more. She kept saying she really wanted to, but didn’t know me well enough and didnt want it to be a one night stand. I know she wants to see me again. I’m confident I’ll be able to seal the deal next time.

[mikeyR]

Thanks Eric,

All that definitely makes sense. Expecially the part about leverage. Between me and her, I’ve been making most of the effort. I certainly need her to invent more than she has. I’ll see if I can get for to come by my place for the next date. If not I’ll at least know to stop wasting my time on her.

[mikeyR]

Appreciate the imput

For a little more background, I met her out one night with my friend. She was with her sister. We hit it off and exchanged numbers. I’m 28, she’s 23 and lives with her parents. On top of that she lives 50+ minutes away from me. Ive been busy pretty much every weekend since I’ve met her, therefore I’ve had to suggest weekday dates. We end up meeting somewhere between where we live. That means I’m at least 25 min from my place. Not ideal in terms of getting her back to my place. Nevertheless, I escalated as far as she would let me on our last date. While making out my hands ventured south two times. Both times she grab my hands and stopped me. She didnt have any problem with me touching her ass, which I did a lot of. We still carried on kissing though after that. Not sure if that was the right move, but felt right at the time. She seems pretty conservative to me so I just figured maybe she doesn’t want to give it up that easily.

I texted her Sunday night and secured a date for this week. Again for me it has to be on a weekday. We both have work very early so I feel having her drive all the way to me on a weeknight(almost an hour) may be too bold a move. Should I feel that way? Either way I figure I have to have her by my place by the following date or I’ve missed my window.

What I’m looking for: I’d definitely like to fool around with her, but she isn’t one of those girls I’d just label bang material and nothing more. She seems like a high value girl. So I’d consider a relationship if it happens to work out that way.

Hopefully this gives more context

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