[elliotrey]

Eric is totally right here. The sooner the better is best.

That solution is both practical, helpful and respectful to you BOTH.
Also your not avoiding her, your not leading her on tho.

Thanks Eric this is a really good one!
Also thanks @-Humz- for your openness as well.

Essentially the longer you leave it the more it’s going to leave a bruise.

Peace & Thanks,

Elliot Rey
Get this and elevate your game: http://alphamastery.net

[elliotrey]

Hey superstar,

Well firstly – thanks for being so open there. Secondly a big thanks to this forum. Thirdly I totally know what your saying.

Even now I still catch myself with the fear of success. So many confused emotions there it’s crazy. Sometimes it feels like being at the edge of a cliff ready to jump in!

The great thing about the fear of success is it’s actually your power to succeed. It’s not in anyway a sign of anything else other then your epic ability to make awesome stuff happen. Yep.

That’s what I saw. Overtime I felt the fear of success – particularly with women: I harnessed it, stopped labelling it as anything (just felt it) and moved forward regardless.

Also totally agree with @SomeguyUK – the fear of the unknown: it’s like wow! I remember being in college and having this ultra cute art student emo babe – always making signs for me to make a move on her – it was crazy obvious I could have success with her. Yet I was terrified of the unknown there. Terrified of what would happen.

Also totally hear what your saying @MrAntiquity – and yes it is different from fear of rejection.

What I saw which is totally the sub title to this site and actually one of the great benefit’s of this is that FEAR is actually CONFIDENCE. I got so comfortable with it that I just didn’t have any reason to consider it any more when it comes up. Like totally carefree and it was actually then ‘TURNED’ into confidence – because every time I would feel it: that’s the time I started to enjoy and interact more.

Again thank’s for being open. Ninja!
Peace,

Elliot Rey
Get this and elevate your game: http://alphamastery.net

[elliotrey]

I understand why you feel like that. I didn’t mean to offed you there.

I agree changing your thoughts and feelings is a pointless endeavour – just doesn’t work permanently anyway.

This forum is great as well. A real gift to everyone.

What I noticed and was communicating there – is to not put so much pressure on myself for one particular situation. The less I built it up as something that was a really big issue by relaxing around the thoughts or emotions of it. I felt more carefree towards it. Then I could let go allot easier.

I hope your goats ok bro. Didn’t mean to get it or how ever it is.

Stay awesome.
Peace,

Elliot Rey
Get this and elevate your game: http://alphamastery.net

[elliotrey]

Hey superstar,

It is useful – thanks for that awesome list, your opens to elevate PLUS your opens to share. Many are going to be like: “EPIC YAY!” for finding this post.

I have something to add tho – Emotional Honesty

Yep this is a BIG TRAIT.

Honesty about who you are, how you want to live, your vision for life, what you find acceptable and what you don’t. It’s big – particularly for women; to take it to a deeper level emotional honest is MASSIVE. I’m not saying get all emotional on her now – hell NO! I’m saying you share about your life, like if something crazy happens you share about it – get descriptive about how it feel’s and feel it when you share.

If someone in the group does something that you don’t accept then you don’t stand for it. Like if someone pours their drink over me I do not stand for being treated like that.

Speak about your vision (use that word to)…

Be honest if you don’t like something then you don’t do it!

Honesty and Emotional Honesty is delicious to women – WHY? It gives them the open permission field to do the same with you, demonstrates that you have a high capacity to feel – there for love and makes it easy for them to connect with you. Boom!

Peace,

Elliot
Get this and elevate your game: http://alphamastery.net

[elliotrey]

Totally true – I love to warm up the whole room as fast as possible, then bounce from person to person until it’s that girl I’m speaking with: really keep’s me also very warm and open – plus takes away any pressure to try and bring anything else then the already present good vibes that are ALREADY flowing.

20 approaches in 30 min’s – totally easy – you will do it. The thing is can you keep count? I recon you could do more. When I get into the vibe I forget about keeping any type of score – just really present with every one getting so warm it’s magnetic. I remember in Borocy I’m not sure how much time it was but we had a pub crawl of around 70 people by the 2nd pub I realised I had approached at least 40 of those people – with no need for anything from them. By the end we were all having so much fun together it was ridiculous!

I look forward to seeing your 20 – bet you’ll do it in less. Ninja!

Peace,

Elliot
Get this and elevate your game: http://alphamastery.net

[elliotrey]

I hear you bro.
There are several things that she could be doing – she could be testing you, she could not see you in that way, she could be trying to make you jealous, she could be messing with your head.

OK so first of even tho the above can make any brother heart sync – FIRSTLY STOP CARING ABOUT IT. I know it’s hard – best thing to do if she does that, you do it as well. If she turns away – don’t care about it – the less you react to stuff like that and the more fun you have – the MORE YOU WILL BE OBVIOUSLY A STRONG ALPHA MALE.

One thing I like to do is turn away myself and then engage other people also. At the end of the day – it DOESN’T matter if it’s her or not. Get into the KING GAME dynamic of bringing the rest of the party together – get other people involved in the fun your having – speak to other girls. You’ll get her attention – she need’s to earn it from you as YOU ARE A HIGH VALUE MAN. One thing tho – don’t do it to get her attention – DO IT TO HAVE FUN YOURSELF. Because let’s face it bro: you deserve to have fun, you deserve to have a great time at the party – your awesome and people WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU – because you bring the party to them.

You can do it bro. I believe in you 100%. Yep!

Peace,

Elliot
Get this and elevate your game: http://alphamastery.net

[elliotrey]

Your doing great! Big up for that.
To be honest take it further, don’t count numbers just do it at every opportunity. That way it’s going to be so natural to you – that you won’t even give it a second thought again. I went totally nut’s with it when I first started blowing one anxiety. Literally deliberately making an ass out of myself in front of totally stunning females. You know what – didn’t hurt a bit; just felt like it would.

Take every opportunity – it’s not about the numbers it’s about getting the experience of getting comfortable with that emotion – to the point you don’t even care about it any more.

Also standing under cold shower’s is a great one – as long as you can!

Sounds to me tho that you are on the right track – your going to before long have no worries about approaching! Yep I believe in you bro 100%.

Peace,

Elliot
Get this and elevate your game: http://alphamastery.net

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