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Thanks for the article Eric. Great points. I definitely feel that approaching women socially during the pandemic is not dead. My initial problem is being cautious about her worries. But I always maintain safety guidelines.
But after interacting with multiple women (some even do not wear a mask). I feel like a lot of my worries is in my head. There was this one occasion where I did not approach but simply looked at her as she walked by and I saw that she had a grin in her face (hey sometimes a girl or two slips through the cracks heh).
One thing about wearing a mask and practicing social distancing is that it forces me to speak louder.
Hi Eric, I am mostly going with indirect openers and practicing the six steps outlined in your book. At the moment I’m on step six trying to expand on that step. Don’t get many chances to practice that step and currently trying to come up with stock lines from cold reading or weaving some NLP patterns into the conversation. But if I stay awhile in the conversation, step 5 is usually enough for me to either make a new friend or get a number.
I am not yet comfortable with direct openers. The only two times I went with it was because I was getting eye contact from the girl and even then the interaction didn’t last long. I find it more casual and less pressure on both parties. It also gets the girl used to speaking with me instead of putting her on the spot. But it does have a place depending on the scenario.
Thanks for the suggestions, I will try them out.
(P.S. I tried using lines from your book in some cases word for word and the girl opens beautifully)
Hi Eric, you are right about persevering until the woman warms up to you: Here is an example of an interaction I was in a couple weeks back. I was asking a NYU student where is a good restaurant nearby?
She initially told me that she doesn’t know but I then told her that I’m from NJ and when I’m here, I feel like a tourist and also told her that she doesn’t do much restaurant exploring in the area huh. She finally recalls a place.
We continue talking and she recalls a second place. I then teased her that if we keep going, she’ll end up writing a book on restaurants. That got a laugh out of her.
That was a pretty good interaction, I think it went all the way to step 5 where I got her major and where she is from. I felt like I made her day (if even for a brief moment).
Thanks for the long post.