What to talk about?
February 7, 2015 at 12:19 pm #72724OshikParticipant
Thanks to She’s Six Steps Away I got rid of approach anxiety but I need toknow how to keep the conversation going till I get the phone number. Do you know any good product for that fro, other dating companies?February 8, 2015 at 12:30 am #72727ryanoParticipant
You don’t need any products telling you how to talk to people, you’ve done it your whole life.
The reason why you’re having this problem is because you’re nervous. You’re outside your comfort zone so you find it hard to figure out what to say next.
So the way to get better is just keep pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. Allow yourself to say anything you want. Even something stupid. Say stupid things on purpose. You can even say “I really can’t think of anything to say. I don’t talk to girls too often.” Basically, allow yourself to make mistakes to say something that’s not “cool”. Even try and say stupid things that will make her walk away from you. Try and get 100 girls to walk away from you, I can assure you that you’ll find that on the 101 girl you won’t have trouble thinking of something to talk about.
Basically, you’re missing the “i don’t give a fuck” mindset. The more you work on getting the point where you don’t care about other’s opinions about you you’ll find that you can talk to them about anything. And the idea is to talk to them about something that interests YOU. Just like you do when you talk with your friends or your family.
Buying a book to “learn” how to talk to people is bullshit because they’ll keep you in the frame that you need to do something “extra” to get the girl. Where the fact is that you don’t need to do shit.
The only tip I can give you is that girls like anything that’s sexual. So study everything you can about “flirting” which basically means you allude to wanting to have sex with her but you don’t outright say it. This can be done with nonverbal comm or through slight touch, or through eye contact, keeping the conversation light and playful too. But that’ll come automatically the more you just talk to them because eventually you’ll get bored as hell from talking to girls so you’ll need to find a way to entertain yourself.
But before you do that you need to be more comfortable in their presence and just say whatever the heck you want to. Being unfiltered takes time, just keep approaching many many girls, say stupid things to them, to the point where you’re desensitized to them and then conversation will flow easily.
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