What to do?

[sangremala]

Actually she text me this morning to wish me a Good Morning

[sangremala]

So do I wish her a Happy New Years at Midnight? I only ask cause she did that for me on Christmas.

[SomeguyUK]

My opinion: no. You were making progress before by being elusive, so stick to it. Playing the nice guy isn’t gonna get you anywhere.

[MrAntiquity]

@sangremala

You strike me as being extremely reluctant to go off-radar. That’s a sign that you really do need to get off the grid and make yourself scarce for awhile.

Ultimately, is a potential rekindling of a relationship w/her going to depend on whether or not you send her a “Happy New Year” text? Of course not.

But the fact that you feel that you need to do this, and/or calculate simple texts like this with help from the forum, means that your’e still very much in her hands. Not only is that not good for a potential relationship between you and her, but it’s also bad for your well-being right now. You need to do your own thing, and if she happens to find a way into that in a way that works, well great.

So yeah–skip the New Year text for now. She’ll probably assume you were busy doing something entertaining.

[The_Hurricane]

Mr. Antiquity said it all and said it so well. I have nothing to add.

–Lee

[MrAntiquity]

Thx, Lee. I can absolutely relate to everything sangremala’s going through–right down to the long trip 🙂

[sangremala]

I really have to thank you guys for your time and advice when you guys don’t really have too.

All you guys are right, infact all of the advice did actually work. I just got excited when it went according to plan and I derailed. Which means I just answered my own question.

Also as someone stated earlier, trying to fix shit and make it better is what makes it worse and goes down the needy road. Women do love when a guy doesn’t give a fuck, but they always pray for the nice guy. That’s some shit.

[sangremala]

Just to update you guys:

On Christmas she initiated Merry Christmas Babe at midnight.

So, 2 days ago she initiated and text me Good Morning, I was like waddup and kept it short.

Yesterday after the forum stuff she initiated and text me if I was ready for the New Year, I didn’t respond.

About 2 hours later she said that her mom cancelled those NYE plans. I was like what plans? (we all know what plans but I played stupid)

So she asked what I was doing that night for NYE, I responded “I haven’t made a final decision yet” she responded “Oh, Ok”

At Midnight about 12:05am (Maybe she was waiting for me to initiate and NO I did not) she texts me “Happy New Years!! (without the babe). My response: None

[The_Hurricane]

You can text her a “happy new year”. Texting nothing back comes across as you being pissed. Texting a minimal happy new year a few days late comes off as you don’t give a fuck. After that, go back to your disappearing plan.

–Lee

[sangremala]

So I stopped bothering looking at her INstagram. My boy texts me at 5:30am and asks you by anychance are you with her now? Im like nah why? Cause I saw her out couldn’t tell with who BUT on Instagram at about 5am she posted a meme with a girl kissing a guys back and she wrote good night with a Kiss emoticon.

Well I don’t know if she’s playing games for me to get a reaction but it wasn’t about me.

Now she has been waiting for me to finish a project for her that’s due tomorrow. Now I don’t know if I should just have the fuck you attitude and not do it or will that show im pissed? I don’t want to be the asshole doing some freaking project when she could of did it her self if she had time to Go out! OR if she was or seeing another dude. Cause then ask that asshole to do it.

Or should I go down the route I should of taken for the Egypt trip and just saying im not doing it for lying to me. With no explanations at all and drop off the grid like you told me to do prior to Egypt when you told me to cancel Egypt?

[The_Hurricane]

Out of curiosity, what project did you agree to do for her? Can she legitimately do it herself or get someone else to do it? If she can do it herself or get someone else to do it, I would write “hey i’m really busy these days. wont be able to help you with blah blah blah”

–Lee

[sangremala]

Bar Graphs or charts, she’s a Teacher so she should be able to do it. She asked me awhile ago if I can do it, maybe she doesn’t have the right computer programs. I don’t know.

That’s better than just disappearing? I just think I’ll look dumb if I do something and she’s laid up with some other dude, and if the meme was just to get a reaction (she deleted it) then now you’re trying to fuck with my head so I’ll still look dumb if I do it.

[Marshall74]

If it were me i would go hang with other girls. Enjoy there company at whatever level and enjoy yourself truly…but im not a coach but i can see that your not having joy in your life.

[The_Hurricane]

Doesn’t sound like she can’t get by without your help. I wouldn’t do the project. Go execute your disappearing plan.

–Lee

[sangremala]

I see that her and dude have been cool on IG joking and laughing and talking about a recent Christmas party (That I knew about).

Should I be concerned and say fuck it? I see him reaching out more since he knows im in the picture. I don’t see her initiate but I do see her entertain. (I don’t know what she does in private on phone and text.)

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