Just missed an opportunity in the day. Kind of forgot what my opener should be.
I’m in a foreign country. I guess asking directions is a good start?
Or do you often go direct?
Typically I’ll open with deep thoughts.
“You look like you’re thinking deep, deep thoughts.”
She responds, typically with a laugh.
Me: “I recently read that the average person spends 14% of their life thinking about things they’ll never do.”
Me: “It’s probably higher for me, like 80%. Cuz I’m a dreamer.”
Me: “What do you dream about? Singing? Dancing? Reading? Writing?”
If she’s buried in her phone or I’m warming up, I’ll typically open with zoo in central park:
“Hey, do you know if there’s a zoo in central park?”
“Is it a big one? Cuz I have friends coming into town and I’m thinking about taking them there.”
“Do they have penguins? Cuz I’m in the mood for penguins. Ever get that way? Like I REALLY gotta see some penguins!”
Thanks a lot, Eric!
So do you still follow the system in your book? –
Open, say something about yourself, then say something about her?
For example –
Ask follow up question/tell her it’s because you’re bringing some friends. Talk for a bit.
Then make assumption about her
Something like that?
Do you use that old pick up stuff of Demonstrating Higher Value in what you say? And do you try to tease/neg usually and qualify her?
> So do you still follow the system in your book? – Open, say something about yourself, then say something about her?
Yes. The basic structure is still the same. In fact the zoo opener is in my book.
> Do you use that old pick up stuff of Demonstrating Higher Value in what you say? And do you try to tease/neg usually and qualify her?
Yes, absolutely. There are lots of ways to demonstrate value: showing intelligence in a topic, social proof, etc. I do tease, neg and qualify.
For example, if I open her in a book store, I will pick up a book and say, “Have you heard anything about this book? The reason I ask is because you look like you read a lot, like you spend a lot of time in the library.” It’s a bit of a neg to tell her she looks like she spends time in the library. It tends to make them laugh and open up.
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