Very unique scenario!

[SomeguyUK]

So I was walking around on my lunch break just now and I saw this smoking hot blonde standing on her own texting. Obviously I had to approach her, so I went up and did a pretty ballsy direct approach.

She seemed very happy I approached her and we had a nice chat. She told me she was on a break from recording as she was a video blogger. She was super happy that I came over as she was making a video about what people find attractive. She called her video crew over and I agreed to do an interview.

Afterwards she gave me her card and told me to send her a message. I looked her up and it turns out she is a female dating coach charging £200p/h!

I was getting some minor IOI’s from her. However there’s a good chance she was standing there waiting to be approached by guys, and I’m just one of many guys she gave a card to today. However, she told me off-camera that she had never been approached like that before, so maybe not.

Anyway, I have a hot dating instructor’s card! What do you guys think – should I text/email? Wait a while or contact her today?

[Cartoox]

are her clients men or women ?

[SomeguyUK]

Looks like both.

[Cartoox]

you could consider asking her about the movie 50 shades of Grey and why women find a humorless control freak like Grey so irresistable….

[SomeguyUK]

Ha, that’s a good idea. Maybe not for an opening text though? I think I’m gonna send her a little push-pull statement about her job tonight. Will update if anything interesting comes of it..

[MobileX]

I am not an expert, but I thing I know some general things. What I see that the so called ‘dating experts’ outside the pick-up community don’t know how it works. This is not to say that every coach in the pick-up community deserves the title ‘expert’.. just a note.

Perhaps when she told you that she had never been approached like that before she really meant it. And many of those people have not yet heard about what we know about how things work between men and women. What makes you guess she didn’t?

But anyway, you can go with her like you would with any other girl, because human behaviour is motivated by feelings not conscious thoughts. So if you’d use Grey with another girl, use it with this girl. But I wouldn’t use it if I’m not comfortable doing the same with other girls. I mean I’d treat this girl as if I didn’t know her dating job and I would avoid stirring her thoughts about how dating works.

[SomeguyUK]

Well, she was an attractive girl, so I’m sure she gets hit on a lot. When I came back the other way, she was wearing a different wig. So I think she was actually wearing different wigs throughout the day, waiting for guys to hit on her and then interviewing them about what they find attractive. I guess it’s possible she hadn’t been approached in such a ballsy way before – I actually swore when I opened her; she seemed to like it.

But you’re right, it doesn’t mean she knows shit. She’s a pretty girl making videos. I’d love to see a successfull female dating coach who is actually ugly.

I texted her, no reply. However, I can see where I went on in the interaction. I think I had attraction early on but I killed it by continuing to banter when she was asking me rapport questions. Stupid mistake, but I’ve learned my lesson.

[MobileX]

I think she must get hit on a lot and doubt many of those men do it the attractive ballsy way we do or we’re learning to do. Does it make sense? or why did she said this?

To me the important of this kind of brainstorming is to make us realise without forcing ourselves to do so that we really come across attractive to girls. To me this works 1000 time better than trying to convince myself how attractive I am.

Oh, you swore and she liked it. Why don’t you share how you opened her? We can learn by sharing experiences.

Best of luck

[SomeguyUK]

I just said ‘hey I was just walking by over there….and you are so fucking cute I had to come and say hello’. But I really emphasised the ‘so.fucking.cute’ bit. Seemed to go down well.

[MobileX]

No surprise I think delivered confidently it comes across so appealing. I think on this level of directness, one can cut across lots of shit that some PUA instructors teach. (not to mention the shitty ‘dating expert’)

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