I recently went to a car show where women (PR representatives and hired models) are showing off products in risque outfits. Naturally, these people are chosen because of their looks. In this context they hold a social power – they are there to look good. They have men coming up all day long wanting pictures; to talk with them; flirt; give them attention. I’m wondering what your opinions are of how these woman can be approached. These are just woman who want the same things as any other woman, so there must be a way to break through that huge wall of “social proof” for lack of a better term.
I’m curious what you think Eric and Lee. Is this something you’ve ever attempted? If so, what worked?
These women need a more extreme approach than other women. They are getting hit on all day. Men are constantly drooling over them. In this situation, I would go extreme disqualification, a lot of flirting and teasing and almost no rapport. Show very, very little interest. A lot of negative body language. For example, when you talk with them, you must make sure you stand next to them, not face them. Give them very little eye contact and instead, look out over the other people in the place. Check out other women in front of them. Hardly give them any attention. And don’t let up, no matter how hard they work.
Thanks for the awesome advice Eric! I had the chance to try a bit of this and the results were not entirely what I was expecting. The more I had neutral or even dismissive body language the more the girls seemed to not even care I was there. I would engage them trying different methods, head on, facing the same direction so we’re side to side, etc. The head on worked best, oddly. It seemed they felt more of a ‘presence’ from me, and being the only guy that didn’t simply ask for a picture or say a bunch of “oh my god you’re so hot’ BS they seemed into it. Half the women seemed completely bored out of their minds just standing at a booth for 8 hours in uncomfortable latex costumes. I think they were happy to have anyone to talk to that wasn’t just there to creep out on them.
Conversely, when I attempted the same thing from a neutral stance, they seemed to feel they could ignore me, almost like I wasn’t ‘committed’ to the engagement. Naturally, this was just me and there’s only so many conclusions that can be derived from such a limited data set but they were interesting results all the same.
Do you have any insight as to what might have been going on here?
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