Stopping girls walking the opposite direction

[Eric Disco]

I used to not even bother but lately I’ve been saying “are you in a hurry?” They ALWAYS say “yes”, some stop and talk, some keep going. It works alright but I don’t really like it. It feels wrong, sort of like saying “do you have a boyfriend?” It feels like a bad way to start a conversation…I can’t really explain why but I was hoping some of the experts have some advice?
Thanks, -s

[Eric Disco]

@ sdl : Eric has a great post on stopping walking girls, I believe its called ” how to approach a woman who’s walking” . Make sure to read into the comments as something similar to your situation is described there

Beyond that, its seems like you’re doing a pretty direct stop, but then trying an indirect opener, so its a kind of mismatch going on, and that’s probably what feels wrong to you

[Eric Disco]

@Cartoox: “seems like you’re doing a pretty direct stop, but then trying an indirect opener, so its a kind of mismatch going on” – right, that makes sense.

Thanks for the article recommendation, I’ll check it out.

[Eric Disco]

I have been doing this a lot lately. I suggest trying out a few things and go with what gives you the best results. Eric recommends letting the girl walk by you then going after her and tapping her on the shoulder. I have tried stopping a distance in front of her and letting her come to me. I have also tried letting her go by then running after her and swooping around ahead of her a little. Positioning is important. You need to get ahead of her and plant yourself. DON’T walk with her unless she agrees to walk with you.
I recommend going direct, otherwise she won’t stop. Tell her she’s cute or tell her you had to stop her and hit on her.

Tay

[Eric Disco]

yeah..I’m with cartoon.

If you’re going to have the balls to stop a walking girl, then you need to have the balls to STOP the walking girl.

I mean–hell–if you’re brave enough, say Stop! (with a bit of a smile). YOu’re stopping her because you have something to say. Whatever that something is, doesn’t matter, but it certainly isn’t
‘what time is it?’ or ‘what’s the square root of seventy’ or ‘are you in a hurry?’

You’re stopping her because you were drawn to her. That needs to come across immediately–or else I think it’s kind of useless. How you get that across is up to you…but I think it’s what you need.

[Eric Disco]

@MrAntiquity you’re right, what I’m doing feels too much like an apology. Which is what insecure people do to try to avoid being disliked. I need to work on it. Thanks for your thoughts. -s

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