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[SomeguyUK]

Every time I have gone out with other pickup dudes, I have found that I end up just spending the night trying to convince the other guy to approach.

That said, if you can find someone else who IS approaching, you could learn from each other. But you are still going to have to deal with awkward moments where the other dude is off talking to a set and you are left alone. So you might as well go out alone.

I would say go out to an area where there are lots of bars. Go into one, and try and make conversation with a dude. Say ‘hows it going tonight man?’. Go to the next place. Make a statement to a girl (like the one I said above). Then keep going and doing slightly harder things each time like the six step method suggests.

[Marshall74]

Hi guys. Been a busy time lately. Lol
This is all great advice and i love talking about this shit. Im still in the beginnings and working hard.

[Marshall74]

Whats up guys.?
Guys looks like the traffic picked up.
I started seeing a girl pretty regularly that i knew growing up.
My outings have dwindled to nothing and now im starting to feel like i shouldnt get away from being out there and doing this thing.
The ver thing is happening that i heard on one of erics interviews.
I started seeing a girl and things have slowed.
Advice please…i do hope everyones doing well with there struggles.

[Marshall74]

Meaning has any of you been in this situation? Beginning and then finding yourself spending more time with this one person.

[SomeguyUK]

Yes I have been in the exact same situation. Met a girl I liked, quickly went from fuckbuddies to full-time relationship, when it ended a year later I had to start all over again.

Only you can say what your priorities are but it might not hurt to limit yourself to seeing her once a week. Anything more is girlfriend territory .

[Marshall74]

I here you and im entertaining thoughts of putting some space in there. I dont mind hanging with this girl but im certainly wanting to also keep working on my social skills.

[The_Hurricane]

All of us have been in this situation. I would say this: no matter what is or is not considered socially acceptable, you should be talking to women even as you’re in a serious relationship. Dating these women is another matter. A serious relationship should end that. But it is totally honest to compliment a hottie on her outfit or engage a married woman in a little conversation. It doesn’t mean you’re going to sleep with them. It means that you’re expressing your honest feelings. When you’re in a relationship, you can still tell that a woman is hot. If you can feel it, you’re allowed to express it. Unless your girlfriend is really insecure, she will value you more for being a social creature. It’s that knowledge that you can have anyone but are choosing her that women find really attractive.

–Lee

[Marshall74]

I think at this point im just at the beginning of understanding somthing greater. Or not thinking rather
But feeling it too.

[Marshall74]

Hi guys.,
I havent been getting out alone. But i want to. Its a huge anxiety thing for me.
I do ok at stores, been hitting happy hours with co workers. Im making effort to get a happy hour group together consistently. But theres times when they cant. I hate this part lol.
Theres one particular place i know the kind of girls i want to meet will be there. But i cant bring myself to go there alone. I feel like ill feel stupid. Shouldnt i want to do this?

[SomeguyUK]

Sounds to me like you do want to do it, but you’re afraid. It’s ok to be afraid.

Just take it in small steps. You don’t have to approach a girl the first time you go there. Just go to the venue, walk around, stand there for 10 minutes playing on your phone, go home. Then the next time, stay longer.

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