second date

[silversun]

I was just wondering if anyone has the any advice on second dates. I noticed that there are some posts on first dates (and they’re awesome), but not too much on second dates. As far as the venue, is good to just go for drinks like its suggested on first dates? I assume if there was attraction in the first date, you should continue to escalate. Is this done in a similar manner or should you try different ideas? Thanks

BTW, love the new look Eric. But one request is that you bring back the section that had blog posts divided by category. I thought it was really helpful when looking for something pertaining to the topic. Otherwise, everything else is great and the forums work well.

[edwin]

In my experience the first date is mostly about getting to know each other and seeing if you click. Whereas the second date can more just be about having fun together and escalating things further. So I like doing something where the attention is off of the two of you. Something like seeing a comedy show, playing mini golf, seeing a movie.

Depending how far youve escalated things, I would also be keeping it convenient for you to invite her over to your place. Once there things can escalate quickly.

[The_Hurricane]

The second date is a continuation of the first date, but the most important thing about a second date is that it must move forward. You’re going to lose points if the second date feels no more intimate than the first date. Even if you try to make things more intimate and fail, you’re better off than just going with the flow and having a comfortable, but lukewarm second date. Think about it. She knows you want her, at least in the physical sense. Presumably, you wouldn’t be there if you didn’t want her. (It’s even worse if she thinks you don’t want her but you’re there because your life is empty of other options.) So when you don’t make a move, what’s her perception of you? That you’re scared? That you’re shy? That you’re not a risk taker. All bad stuff that will come back to haunt you later. On the second date, you’re better off taking some chances.

–Lee

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