Could use some perspective on balancing seduction with other things I’d like to be doing; namely, learning a martial art and a new language. I really want to learn those new skills but I can’t escape this feeling that time spent pursuing those interests is time I can’t use to approach women; especially as that’s my top priority in life right now. I’m currently on Step 5 of the method and finding it challenging, but not insurmountably so. I’m going out every day after work to practice and at times I do feel a little bogged down with the repetition of it all. So it would be nice to change things up a little for a day or two a week doing those two other things I’m passionate about.
What do you guys think? Should I put off those interests until my approach anxiety is well and truly conquered, or can I afford to balance it with those other activities?
Any advice is greatly appreciated!
Good job on getting to step five, man!
Should you learn a new skill?
The question you need to ask yourself is:
Has going out to practice meeting women become a habit for me?
If you think you can continue to go out regularly without having to put a lot of mental energy into getting yourself to go out, then I say go for it. Try something new.
But, for your new skill, I challenge you to do something more social than you normally do. Martial arts and learning a new language can be social but… it’s not THAT social. If it sounds like a challenge to you, then by all means, go ahead.
But if you can get to Step 5 in my program, I’m guessing it’s not that much of a challenge, at least not socially.
Can you think of any skills that might be more socially challenging for you to learn?
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