Never Get Angry at Women

[Eric Disco]

Never Get Angry at Women

• This topic was modified 5 years, 12 months ago by Eric Disco.

[Marshall74]

Hi Eric love the read. Doez this logic aplmy to foreign girls IYO? Particulary asian girls?
Foreign women from their native countries.

[Eric Disco]

Absolutely. It applies to all women. No one gets a free pass to treat you poorly!

Eric

[Marshall74]

Hi Eric i thought of a question on this subject today i became curious of your take. I believe this is important subject. So many fails in this area

How do you show her less of your time without coming across as passive aggressive? If she is pissing you off or irritated or hurt, and you want to put space there and she asks if your angry or upset or whatever. How to proceed? Ignore? Banter? Be busy?

Thanks Man

[Eric Disco]

Great question. You do definitely don’t want to convey that you are angry, hurt, bitter, etc.

The best way to do this is to become distracted with something else. Focus your attention elsewhere. If you’re out with her and she’s being stupid, go about doing what you would do if she weren’t there.
Don’t ignore her. Just act less interested in what she has to say. Like she’s boring you.

If her actions are so egregious that you have to end the night, tell her you’re tired or you have work to do or you have to get up early. If she wants to come over, just say you aren’t in the mood. If she starts to ask why, that’s an opening for you to tell her something like, “You just don’t seem like you’re into it.”

If she’s texting you, just reply slower or not at all. If she asks to hang out, say, “This week is pretty hectic. Let’s touch base next week.”

Eric

[Marshall74]

Thanks for taking the time Eric. Great advice. I loved the article. I saved that one and reread it from time to time.
Can you elaborate a little more if the situation is a bit more LTR? Not necessarily a live in situation but the ltr situations were she’s not necessarily aware of it. And perhaps its those occasions that us guys get to butt hurt and being a needy baby about things and need to practice.
Same advice? Ltr maintenance? Again thanks for the info bro.

[Eric Disco]

This pertains particularly to relationship maintenance. I rarely have an explicit “talk” with a woman if I don’t like her behavior. I prefer to pull away and let her ask why. Then I may mention the behavior I didn’t like. For example, if she nags me about something, I may say, “Okay. Enough already. We aren’t talking about this anymore.” If she proceeds to, I will back off. She’s had her warning. Every time she does it, I’ll back off a little more or for a longer period of time.

Never giver her an ultimatum, at least not an explicit one, i.e. “If you don’t stop nagging me, I’m not gonna see you anymore.” Instead, let your actions do the talking. Show her that she won’t get away with bad behavior.

Does that answer your question?

Eric

[Marshall74]

Yes it does. Thanks. This has been an area for me that i strongly need work with. I’m suspicious that most normal guys do too.
I think 80% of men fall into this trap and your article is well written and very clear.
In a relationship when you create space even though they don’t realize they have irritated you they come at you with questions and its at this point i think is what makes or breaks it.
Its almost like its being done on purpose just to try and test you. Lol

At that point what to do?
“Not angry hun just busy” yadda yadda.

How do you respond after they irritated you and the detect the space and inquire.??
“Nah hun just been thinking of my next scheme to conquer the world”

We are so conditioned to “talk” its hard to communicate implicitly.
Very very deep subject just in 1 blog post Eric and thanks for it.

[Eric Disco]

If possible, it is good to communicate to her that it is her actions that caused this. For example, if she’s acting bitchy when you are out on a date with her, you can say, “I’m gonna take off. You don’t seem like you are in the mood for this.”

Once when I started seeing someone, she fell asleep on my couch without hooking up with me, even though we had hooked up before. I woke her up and told her that I don’t want her sleeping on my couch. I called her an uber and sent her home. She never fell asleep on my couch again for as long as we dated.

Yes, sometimes you want to deflect and say that you’re just not in the mood or you’ve been busy. Sometimes that’s enough to get her to realize what she is doing.

Eric

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