Need a great introductory text

[SomeguyUK]

So I finally got a number after opening with ‘deep thoughts’. It’s been the hardest opener to get comfortable with, but it’s starting to work well for me.

I guess time will tell if I got her real number, but she seemed reasonably keen.

Normally in the first text I make a reference to something we laughed at/flirted over, but I don’t have anything like that for this girl.

Can anyone suggest something good for a first text? I don’t want to lead with something boring like ‘nice to meet you the other day’ or ‘how are you?’.

[The_Hurricane]

Substitute the place you met:

“do you agree that the boys you meet at the supermarket tend to be smarter, funnier, and more charming than boys you meet anywhere else?”

–Lee

[zhelyazko]

Hahaha, oh come on how do you come up with these things?

[SomeguyUK]

Haha! You know, I’m not sure I charmed her enough to pull this one off – but fuck it, I’ll give it a try. Thanks Lee.

[SomeguyUK]

Wow I got an instant response!! “ahahaa maybe!”

*fist pump*

[MrAntiquity]

nice! maybe I should try something similar one of these days..

[The_Hurricane]

@zhelyazko

I make up this stuff only once. That’s the benefit of all of my material – one size fits all. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the supermarket or on the street, if you talked about something memorable or if you didn’t. This is a great post-encounter follow up text regardless of the circumstances. Same with my first date follow up text: “second dates are so much more stressful and nerve wracking than first dates. at least that’s what girls tell me :-)”

–Lee

[SomeguyUK]

So my follow up to the text:

“Well, now I know why you like hanging around there so much 😉 Drink after Xmas?”

She replied about 5 hours later saying “hahaha I let you know when I’m free”. So she’s not very warm but we’ll see.

I’m starting to think about how I talk more. I started talking about travel with this girl and she asked me why I liked New York so much. My response was basically “erm…it’s really fun…the bars are awesome..the people are really friendly and interesting”. Luckily she jumped on that last point but I later realised what a waste of a question that was; I could have talked about so much more.

Anyway, I’ve got a few numbers and dates in the past doing this day time stuff, but this is the first time I’ve got a genuine number from a really cute girl. Very happy. Definitely could not have done that without the things I’ve learnt on this website/forum 🙂

[zhelyazko]

It’s inspiring to see other people improving. It shows it’s possible. Good job SomeguyUK. And thanks for the explanation, Hurricane brother.

Merry Christmas to you all. And a happy new year 🙂

[SomeguyUK]

Same to you @zhelyazko.

Well, suprise suprise I never heard from the girl. I guess I need to ‘swing for the bleachers’ with my next text. Any ideas for a ballsy follow-up, guys?

[Cartoox]

@someguyuk

was your last text the one asking her out for a drink after Xmas ? or did you send her something else after ?

[Cartoox]

It is however the holiday season, she could be busy with end of the year parties, family events, post Xmas store Sales etc…..I’d say give it a couple of weeks, about Mid Jan when everyone is back in their daily grind, send her a Ping text to sound her out…
If she responds , suggest meeting up for a drink on a certain day & time…

[SomeguyUK]

Hmm. You might be right, maybe it’s better to wait. On the other hand, I don’t want to wait too long. Also this girl told me that all her friends had gone back to Italy for Christmas so she wouldn’t have much to do over the holidays. She is a student and she works in a nightclub, so she probably isn’t doing much right now.

I get the feeling with this girl that she was somewhat curious about me but not quite warm enough to go for a drink. I think I need to text-chat with her a bit.Not sure how to re-initiate though.

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