Hanging out vs "dating"

[loves2smile]

If you invited a girl to “meet up” at a coffeehouse the first time, a bar at the second time, and an art gallery the third and there was no kiss attempted at the end, would it seem to you that I was asking her to “hang out” vs an actual “date”?

Also, if I wanted to pursue this as more than just “hanging out” (such as a romantic pursuit), would I be friendzoned by now into the point of no return?

[demainor]

Not an expert on this but l think you should have escalated the second time out. l would definitely escalate things the next time we hook up and be more aggressive when shes away

[MrAntiquity]

Don’t get caught up in the lingo–the words don’t mean anything. Although you could consider ‘hanging out’ as ‘a date that doesn’t go anywhere’. Just like ‘friends with benefits’ or ‘fuck buddies’ don’t mean anything either–that’s just dating you don’t want to commit to.

Basically, it’s ALL dating–people invent all these terms to protect themselves and to have a packaged way of talking about the convoluted relationship game with their friends, family, or even themselves.

But ultimately, you need to convey the interest pretty soon–if it doesn’t ‘feel’ like a date to the girl, it won’t turn into one, then you’re stuck. The move doesn’t HAVE to be on date # 1 2 3 or whatever–the number doesn’t matter–but you can’t disguise your intent–she has to know very early what your intentions are.

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