If I’ve gotten a girl’s number a over a week ago (ten days), and still haven’t texted her, do I still have a shot at converting that into a date?
As a general rule of thumb, how soon should one text after getting a number? Next day? I think Lee in the podcast says, “almost immediately.” Does that mean a day or two?
You can text her the same day or the day after you met her. (After the first date, you should wait for her to text you.) After you meet her, the best way to text her is to send something light and flirty. Don’t ask her out right away. Let her show some interest in you – let her ask questions about your life or what you’re doing – then ask her out. Except don’t ask, tell. Tell her exactly where and at what time she should meet you.
I send a text as I’m walking from the girl after getting a number. Something short and flirty, usually an inside joke from the conversation. I hate having to say “hey its me, the guy you talked to on the street yesterday” and texting right away makes it obvious who it is. @Lee do you think thats too soon or..?
I prefer to wait a little longer, to create a sense of a little uncertainty, but your way is fine. You have the right idea about keeping it light and flirty. It’s important that your text shouldn’t come across as needy, as you asking for more confirmation that she’s into you.
I usually send her a “comeback humor” text, or even better, a meme with some funny quote that is relevant to her or the context, or time of day,e.g. if it’s in the morning, I send a pic I got of a clerk sleeping on his desk with a GIANT – photoshopped – cup of coffee in front of him
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