Cutie livin on my property

[Jag]

Hi guys,
Hope your autumn is going great. My question is: I have some peeps livin on my place temporarily (seasonal work), one is a cutie. I haven’t gotten much for ioi’s, but there is some chemistry. She is recently out of a ltr, and i know has at least 1 boy toy out of the area, but nothing serious. She’s a young 24, and seems more interested in boys than men (I’m a young 40). My organic approach to it hasn’t worked, hence my post. I’m just wanting some fun.
Any advice?

[Eric Disco]

When you are in this situation, you have one advantage that every other guy does not: time.

In most situations with women, you have a time pressure. If you meet a woman at a party, for example, you better increase her interest and get her phone number before you leave. This time constraint forces you to show your interest, often before she is interested in you.

In your situation, however, you have plenty of time. This allows you to mess with her, show a lot of disinterest, etc., without necessarily scaring her off. So in this case, I tend to lean heavily on the disinterest: talk with her but make sure to get in a few barbs and leave the conversation early.

For example, at work I was speaking with a woman and found out that she lives in jersey. Although I grew up in jersey, I like to bust on people for living in jersey. After she told me she was from jersey, I said, “Jersey? Oh man. Not cool. We gotta get you out of jersey.” And then I walked off.

Chances are, I’ll run into her again and she will then try to win my interest.

In general, the ‘take-away’, where you leave her hanging and walk off, is a great thing. Sometimes you can get away with it at a party or a club. But in those situations, you run a big risk of not talking with her again. But if you do, it’s magical.

In your situation, you can pretty much do as many take-aways as you want. Talk to her for a little and then walk off on her. The idea is to get her striving for your approval.

Eric

[Jag]

Thanks for the input Eric. I am learning a lot from you guys, I know because I have been doing this already. After reading this, I did one playing that she was a big twilight fan, She got a bit defensive flustered and said “your a dick” ) I have been rewarding her with my attention and then ignoring (showing disinterest) her when she does things I don’t like (like giving guys at the bar too much attention (she gets a lot of attention)).
So next thing is, If she hasn’t bought in enough to hot tub with me, or kick it alone with me in my house, is it wise to force the issue so to speak by escalating?.
If I’m too patient maybe I become the dick in the glass jar?

[Eric Disco]

She got a bit defensive flustered and said “your a dick”

That’s good. That means you’re heading in the right direction.

I have been rewarding her with my attention and then ignoring (showing disinterest) her when she does things I don’t like (like giving guys at the bar too much attention (she gets a lot of attention)).

In that situation, the best possible thing you can do is talk with other women at the bar.

So next thing is, If she hasn’t bought in enough to hot tub with me, or kick it alone with me in my house, is it wise to force the issue so to speak by escalating?.

Yeah, at some point you want to make the move. See if you can get her to hang out with you alone in some way. And in this situation, alcohol is a pretty good option. That way if things don’t go as planned, you can always blame the alcohol. Helps avoid any weirdness.

Eric

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