Reply To: Why might a girl act uninterested when she really is

[Eric Disco]

Mr Antiquity is right on. By nature, it is very difficult to read women’s interest. When it comes to attraction, they are duplicitous in nature. You could check out studies men and women were video taped in speed dating events. When an unrelated group of men and women watched the videos, it was easy for them to tell which men were interested but almost none of the men and women would read whether the women were interested. We’ve talked about that here on this blog where it is probably evolutionary that women are good at hiding their interest–even from themselves.

Second, us guys who want to challenge women hide our interest as well. It’s not a good idea to tell a woman, “I like you.” That kills the unpredictability and fun for her.

Now, it seems from what you describe that this woman was showing NO interest at all, in fact actively acting like she didn’t want to talk to you. This does sound a bit more extreme than your average woman who just hides her interest and is neutral or friendly on the surface.

So here’s the most likely explanation for what happened: She saw you interacting with other women. That gave you social proof. Initially, she was mildly attracted to you but not enough to show interest. Once she saw you interact with other women, she wanted you a lot more.

Eric