Reply To: Terrible Fear of Getting Into Trouble Again?
I would probably add that women are generally not annoyed by this thing if a.) they’re normal and b.) you’re doing it right. By doing it right, I mean a whole set of things including not only your tactic, but also how you feel about it.
My guess is that, if you’re getting complaints–and people are talking to the manager, you’re projecting creepiness because you actually FEEL like a bit of a creep doing this. That’s what you need to get over. Guys who have fun flirting are generally able to get the girl onboard with that EVEN if it doesn’t turn into anything. The discomfort part should probably happen more when you’re trying to cultivate some sexual tension–but that’s meant to be a good kind of discomfort–not a ‘um…leave me alone’ type of discomfort. That is a huge distinction and may be something that you need to work on recognizing, too–from the sound of it.