Reply To: Stuck in the Omega/Beta type, how to make the transition to Alpha?

[Eric Disco]

My recommendation–forget about the term ‘alpha’. To be honest, I can’t stand it in ‘PU world’–it’s a term co-opted from ethology (study of animal behavior) and, while it certainly has SOME relevance for people, it’s oversimplified, overused, and most of the time translates either to ‘be a dick’ or ‘don’t give a fuck’.

If that’s not you (which is probably a good thing) you can’t talk yourself into it (which is also a good thing.) You don’t HAVE to ‘lead the pack’ to get the ladies–you just have to go get the ladies 🙂 (which most people suck at so giving it a shot is 90% of the battle)

Essentially, everyone’s track is going to be different but ultimately you’re slowly training yourself to relax a bit, let go of some pre-conceived notions and self perceptions, test the waters a bit, and become more comfortable with your identity as a guy (masculine/sexual identity)

So yes, you WILL do it in steps (that’s what this site tries to get you to do), but it doesn’t matter whether it’s Beta/Omega Zeta Pi or whatever–skip that lingo–slowly you’ll embrace yourself and the next steps will follow as part of that.

Be prepared for it to take awhile–there’s no rush, and it’s not a race.