Reply To: Stuck in the Omega/Beta type, how to make the transition to Alpha?
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A misconception of mine when I started this process was that I should try and become ‘the alpha’ in my own peer group and social circle. This is nothing one should try. The process would take years, meet with immense resistance and perhaps end with you getting kicked out. A more reasonable aim is to display alpha qualities (confidence, independence, courage, social competence) to women. The women you approach usually do not know your status within your peer group. (Those within your group you will usually not want to approach anyway.)
I recommend Eric’s six-step method to give you a solid foundation for approaching women. But when I started approaching women my self-esteem was zero, as was my game. I desparately needed to prove to myself that I still was a man (after having been solidly betaized in an LTR) and nothing would count for me but getting laid. So whenever a new woman/girl came into my reach I was attracted to I did what I could to get her in bed. The only alpha quality I had to bring was stamina. And slowly I worked my way out of the morass.
I guess what I want to do is contradict part of what Mr Antiquity says. You can be in a situation where you feel that you need validation/appreciation of your identity as a man right now. I was in that situation and I could do nothing but approach women wherever I could and be as selfish as I could. There will come a time when you do not want to be an asshole anymore – but the time when you feel you’re somewhere between beta and omega is not that time.
Hope this helps.