Reply To: She Asked Me What I Think About Her

[Eric Disco]

You don’t want to give her a straight answer like, “I like you a lot.” You are always better off keeping that in limbo and making her wonder about your feelings. That’s a lot more interesting for her and keeps her attracted. Try something like: “I haven’t decided about you yet.”

A girl asked me what my intentions with her were and I said, “To get to know you better and be as dirty as possible in the process.”

I am told that the best time to tell her that I don’t want to be exclusive with her is right after sex,

Terrible. Do not do this. Do not ever tell a girl explicitly that you don’t want to have a serious relationship with her unless she presses you. Even then, you should joke it off with her and communicate it to her in other ways. Here’s how you communicate it:

1. By how often you see her. Keep it to once a week or less. Don’t have conversations on the phone. Text once a day, tops.

2. If she does talk about being serious, joke it off first. “Is this a marriage proposal? I thought you’d never ask.” Change the subject. She’ll most likely get the message.

3. If she still doesn’t get the message and presses you, tell her you’re not yet ready to be exclusive with her.

The reason you do it this way is because if you explicitly say to a girl, “I don’t want you as a girlfriend,” she has that message in her head. It’s like a recording she can access any time. It’s now real to her. It hurts more. And when her friends ask her what’s up, she’ll have to tell them straight out that you don’t want anything serious. Where as if you’re more indirect, she can tell her friends, “Stuff is up in the air.”

You don’t want to lead a woman on if she really wants a serious relationship. But most women will be into a casual thing if you don’t hand them the sharp end of the knife.

Eric