Reply To: persistent or annoying?

[Eric Disco]

A few things about not taking it personally. First of all, you don’t know what her situation is. You don’t know if she has a boyfriend and just wants some attention. Or she just doesn’t want to date someone from work. Even though PUA’s try to make it seem like there is no impossible target, some situations just do not work out. And like Lee says, a certain percentage of girls will just not be into you no matter what. Even much less attractive women won’t be into you sometimes. It’s not an indictment of how attractive you are.

Secondly, it’s highly likely you fucked this up. You did something to blow her attraction for you. I can’t tell you exactly what it is from my vantage point, but the point is that you can change your behavior. You can work on it and improve. With every woman, you want to take calculated risks to try and see what works and what doesn’t work.

Lastly, the more you have a set routine down–knowing what you like to do with women–the less personally you take this stuff. If you try to re-invent the wheel with every new woman you meet, you tend to invest a lot more mental and emotional energy much too soon. You don’t really know the woman at the beginning, so why act like it? The more ‘automatic’ things are, the more these small rejections will roll off you like water off a ducks back.

Eric