Reply To: How far in advance?
You asked her out. Do you think that she doesn’t know that you like her? Even when you talk to girls about the weather, they can sense that you like them, so after asking her out and getting a last minute no, you should stop worrying about whether she knows you like her and start worrying about whether she likes you. If she already knows you, you can’t get her to like you simply by spending more time around her. If anything, that’s just going toturn her off more. The way to change her opinion of you is to demonstrate the qualities of a desirable man. Will it work? Probably not. When a girl says no to you once, it’ll usually remain a no. However, she is in your social circle, so you have plenty of time to demonstrate how cool you are. Right now, that, and some very light contact with her is all you can do.