Reply To: She is 6 steps away: 2nd step
So, I started on step 2 and have been doing it consistently for the last 3 days. It’s okay actually.
Here is what I found:
1. I feel a slight resistance due to sexual shame as pointed out in one of the 10 year old posts here. https://approachanxiety.com/forums/topic/read-me-why-guys-arent-getting-consistent-lays-on-this-forum/
2. It’s easier to position myself next to her if I: a) listen to music looking preoccupied or b) doing something with my phone looking preoccupied.
3. When I have positioned myself next to a girl either sitting or standing I feel relaxed, but blank and empty inside. I don’t feel nervous, no fast heart rate, no sweaty hands.
Question: What sort of thoughts or affirmations could I start running through my mind so my step 3 will be easier? Or what sort of mini actions could I do to tip me towards an easier 3rd step in the future?