Reply To: Approval Seeking and Desperation
you date quite a bit, don’t you? And one of these “neediness” episodes ended up being your girlfriend 🙂 Are you sure you’re as needy or desperate as you think you are?
I mean you’re right–you cannot logically convince yourself to not be needy, or lonely, or desperate, or hungry, or anything. Trying to do that will mess up your entire head. If you are, you are. The only solution is to ACTUALLY become a different way (evolve, as it were), and that takes time.
I’ll say this though–if you’re feeling needy after getting some of these girlfriends/dates, etc., then the neediness probably has nothing to do with women, and it might be worth trying to figure out where it’s coming from. Maybe with a bit of help.