Reply To: on the advice to "just be yourself"
I agree with this 100%. Be yourself should really mean: aspire to be unique and excellent and, as you become that person, own your new personality.
That’s why the idea of saying whatever comes to mind is, in my opinion, totally stupid.
What comes to mind right now is not what will come to mind after some practice. You want to be able to say cool, interesting, and revealing things, things that both impress and challenge women.
That’s what you should practice until those cool, interesting, and revealing things are what actually comes to mind when you’re talking to women. When that happens, you will be yourself, the self that says cool, interesting, and revealing things, not the self that you are now.