Reply To: The Mindset
I think it depends. I agree w/Lee that the direct approach isn’t best for someone like me, because I’m able to do it about 0% of the time, and when I do manage to do it, I say “wow, that was cool!” but don’t find myself any further than I was before. Also, as Lee’s saying–if you push something too far, you can really do some lasting damage–self-induced trauma.
But in other cases, if you’re just nervous, a similar feeling to, say, calling a girl for the first time back in junior high school, or asking someone on a date, if that’s the nature of your “approach anxiety”then it may well be a “just do it”, then it’s out of the way.
But for severe anxiety often you can’t just start saying whatever you want–it’s a slow release process that can take months or years.