Reply To: After second date.
It’s always surprising to guys when pulling back works, but having seen it enough, I can tell you that it’s one of the few things you can do to improve your chances after getting a “no” or an excuse. Think of it this way: the most valuable thing you have to give to or take away from a girl is you. When she’s not giving you what you want, start taking yourself away. It’s not just a game. It’s real. Meaning, if you start taking yourself away and she doesn’t respond, take even more of yourself away. What eventually happens? She responds by trying harder or – more often than not – you take yourself entirely out of the picture and move on. It’s the only course of action that is consistent with the idea that you want to focus on people who are adding something to your life, and de-weight the people who are not.