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You can play the best game and still lose. You can play the worst game and still win. When dealing with human beings, you can’t be certain of anything. However, you have to realize that there are some situations – yours appears to be one of them – in which it’s better to risk losing her than to continue on a confidence sapping downward spiral. Each time you take a risk, it will be effective only if it is a bigger risk than the one you took last time, only if she is genuinely surprised by what happens. In other words, if you disappeared for a week last time, it has to be a month this time. Do women sometimes walk away? Yes. Do women sometimes play right back? Yes. But the alternative is worse: marching along like a lemming to the cliff of your romantic doom.