Reply To: "No outcome" vs using "game"

[zhelyazko]

Hi Lee,

I though about it for a long time and I think it boils down to the following. A lot of it is how I feel, but I did identify some behavioral mistakes as well.

Behavior:
1- I initiate stuff more than she does; she will not write to me or invite me out or come speak to me at a party, if part of my social circle (after I have already approached her)
2- I banter too much (trying to be funny, looking for a reaction from her)
3- I get nervous (voice tone, body language, etc. etc.)
4- I find it difficult to escalate (which just boggles me, why it is the case)

Feelings:
-I feel like I am the one trying to win her over
-I want to spend time with her, even though she has not showed me any other interesting qualities

Thank you.

Regards,
Zhelyazko