Reply To: Awkward Social Dynamics Challenge #3 – The male friend arrives

[SomeguyUK]

On the surface, this doesn’t seem too difficult.

In my experience if the girl likes you and the guy is an orbiter, she’ll have no problem making it clear. I had a funny experience recently where I was talking to a girl, introduced myself to the male friend, and she says ‘this is Tim, he’s like my gay best friend’. The poor guy looked crushed.

So I reckon when the guy comes up, you just talk for a minute and then say ‘wait a minute-am I interrupting a first date right now?’

If it’s an orbiter, she’ll say he’s just her friend.

If it’s a boyfriend, they will probably laugh and say it’s not the first date.

The only problem is if they are dating but it’s nothing serious yet – i.e if it’s a second date, or it’s a first drink together but no one has explicitly said it’s a date – in which case they will probably go a bit awkward. In that situation I think it’s a bit similar to the cockblocker challenge. The girl doesn’t want to look like an asshole by giving her number to you in front of the guy. But she may want to see you again.

In that case I would talk some more and then invite them both to some event. “Hey my friend’s having a cool party next weekend, you guys should come”. Then give the girl your card/number – as you have been talking to her longer, it’s not weird to give your contact details to the girl rather than the guy.