Reply To: "Deep thoughts" opener
Man, this is getting more and more confusing :/
How do you deal with it when people are unwilling to open up? Twice when I did the opener today, the girls said yes, i.e they were in fact thinking deep thoughts. Then when I asked them what they were thinking, they got all uncomfortable; they didn’t seem to want to tell me.
It seems like the opposite way of doing things to what Eric suggests, ie to make small talk>get comfortable>gradually go deeper.