Reply To: Awkward Social Dynamics Challenge #1
zhel: don’t worry about whether she’s interested or being friendly. A big reason guys screw up all the time (and girls too) is getting obsessed with this. Fact is–you don’t know–and also, friendship–>interest is a spectrum that sometimes changes. I do like the idea of “assuming attraction”. Doesn’t matter whether the assumption is right or not.
As @Someguy said above, the girl DID suggest an alternative. So I like the idea of teasing a bit about it, not getting too invested–and hey–what do you have to lose a few weeks later? Maybe she’ll even bring it up–that happened with a co-worker of mine actually. I suggested a casual after-work drink, she had legitimate reasons, and I thought it was dead. A couple weeks later, she was like “so when are we going for that drink?”