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Thanks, yeah what you’re going through is well known in this community and I’ve experienced it many times as well.
Paul Janka called this getting a woman to reach a “Decision Node”. Where you purposely put your foot down as far as what you want and either the girl goes with it or she rejects you. So in a way you’re forcing her to make a decision about where she wants to go and you’re almost welcoming rejection because you know a certain percent of girls will go for what you want so it doesn’t matter if this specific one does reject you.
GLL also talks about this, but he calls it “Screening”.
“If you aren’t getting ‘rejected’ enough initially, you aren’t really screening girls. On most nights, I need a certain amount of girls to Get Lost until I find a candidate(s) that are sexually available and worth my time.”
Another guy, Mark Manson, calls this “Polarization”. He has a book called “Models” with a whole chapter “Polarizing To Attract” devoted to this. Here’s an excerpt:
“Like I mentioned earlier the most common strategy with guys who are inexperienced with women is to be ‘liked by all; hated by none.’ but when it comes to being intimate with women, this is a horrible strategy.”
… “Rejection exists for a reason — it’s a means to keep people who are not good for each other apart. Men don’t seem to understand if a woman rejects him because he’s short, or because she doesn’t like his hair, or because she finds him boring, then he wasn’t going to want to be with her anyway. Again, it’s guys with alot of neediness who are willing to alter their personalities to seduce ANY woman.”