Reply To: Hi. I get cockblocked more than anyone on the planet. Please help.

[ryano]

So she said “Do you mind if he joins us?” and of course i said “sure, of course”.

I mean, you caused this. You should’ve pulled her aside and said “well if it’s ok I was hoping we could spend some private time together, no offense to your colleague”.

But instead you let them have their way with you. So it’s your doing.

I remember one time I was supposed to meet a date at the park and when I met her she was sitting with another girlfriend of hers. And I introduced myself to both of them. I then said “not to be impolite, but I thought we were supposed to be on a date together just us”. She said, “sorry but my girlfriend needs to meet who I date with so I thought she could stick around for awhile”. And to that point I said, “sorry, doesn’t work that way with me. Take care” and I left.

Stand firmly on your ground and your needs in this world.

And far as escalation it’s the same deal. You really need to be true to your own needs. You’re afraid the girl will not reciprocate, but guess what. They don’t all reciprocate. You’ll lose alot of battles. But you need to be ok with walking away from situations, or be okay that girls need to walk if they don’t like what you’re about.

You said you have political debates with women. That’s great, but you and I both know it won’t lead to sex. So just know what you want. (is it sex?) and go for it. And be OK that some girls won’t be down for it.

A big element of game is what’s called “screening”. let’s say I’m only looking for sex on a date. That means I try to invite ALL girls back to my place at the end of the date. Some will say “no” and some will say “yes”. But it’s very important that I screen them because that’s the only way to get success. You need to have a clear picture of what you want and seek out those people.

Do you live in a big city?