Reply To: Confused after instant date

[The_Hurricane]

Dude, you’re done with this girl. If she didn’t respond to two messages, calling her is not going to help. You can try pinging her a week or two later, but even that is unlikely to work if she’s ignored you twice. Cheer up. This happens a lot. You think it’s a great date, but even as you’re getting her to comply with your wishes, you’re losing her interest. For the next time, remember this: pushing for more and more and more is making her feel good because you’re giving her a lot of validation, but if it’s you doing all the chasing, you’re losing value even as she complies with your wishes. Just because she’s saying yes doesn’t mean she’s made up her mind about you. What you need to do is to reverse the power dynamic, to make her start trying almost as much as you’re trying.

–Lee