Reply To: How to ask a girl from the gym on the date?

[The_Hurricane]

She seems like she’s at least mildly interested. Start one of your normal conversations with her, chat for a few minutes, then say something like this:

“Hey, this Thursday, I am getting together with some friends for dinner down around (name the area). Should be done around 9-ish. After that, there’s supposed to be a good cocktail bar down there called (name a place). When I’m done with my friends, I’m going to check out their Gin Fizz. You should tag along.”

What does this do? First, you’re not really asking her out. You’re telling her what you’re doing and offering her the opportunity to tag along. This relieves some of the pressure. Second, it’s easier for her to say no. She can just say she’s busy Thursday evening.

What if she does say she’s busy that evening and doesn’t offer an alternative? Do nothing. She’s given you her answer. You gave her a polite way to say no – she’s busy – and she took it.

What if she’s busy that day but wants to get together with you? She’s going to offer an alternative. All girls would. Her: “I can’t do Thursday but I’m around all of next week.” You: “No worries. Give me your email. I’ll check what day works for me.”

It’s that simple.

–Lee