Reply To: Hot to approach with legitimate reasons?

[The_Hurricane]

It’s definitely true that, if you’re older, you will have a harder time getting success with direct game. But I’m making a different point here. Regardless of how you open, having good game means more than just asking for and getting the date. Good game is the process of back and forth in which you find out about each other in a way that is not otherwise possible, at least not in the fifteen minutes you would usually get in a cold approach. The question “Are you funny and creative?” may be honest and direct, but the answer is less useful to you that a little game in which she gets to try to play along with you by putting her wit and creativity on display. Guys who know how to do this well can demonstrate value while getting girls to reciprocate. That is what I call good game. Of course, there are plenty of people out there who don’t like the word game. I’m fine with calling what I’m talking about expertise in social dynamics, social fluency, social intelligence, or whatever else. But that doesn’t change the concept very much. Simply getting girls to go out with you is a less useful skill than getting girls to go out with you because they truly understand and appreciate what makes you special and desirable.

–Lee