Are there any examples of people who successfully got over their approach anxiety, without the aid of a coach or mentor? From the reading I've done, it seems that the very best all had a coach(es) to bring them to the next level. Doing this on my own seems like a tall mountain to climb.
Ideally, I'd like to have a coach but I don't know of one that offers their services here in Montreal. Are there any?
It is possible and I have done it without a mentor. However it does take longer because there is no one there to support, give you a confidence boost or advise you. It is harder without a mentor so I would recommend one.
If you can afford one then by all means go for it.
I do know people who have gotten good without coaches. My good friend John Keegan, dating coach extraordinaire, is one of them. He never had coaching of any kind and taught himself to be great just by reading and practicing.
But he's more of an exception. Aside from naturals, most of the other guys I know who are great with women did get some kind of coaching. And if they didn't get any coaching, they usually had some kind of friends who were naturals whom they learned from.
There's a lot of good reasons to get coaching. But you can make progress on your own. My recommendation to you would be to seek out guys who are better than yourself to work with if you can't find coaching, whether those guys are naturals or in the community.
Eric
It seems to me that getting over the AA is actually within reach of most, albeit not all, guys provided they stick to a program of gradual approaches.
Actually getting results is a different issue.
I wonder how observing a natural (who's often probably doing only relatively well to start with and relying to an extent on looks, social circles etc.) in action is going to help, most of these guys are probably just doing their own thing without understanding what it's going on and as such can't offer much useful advice.
Guys who are really good with women and have the analytical and teaching skills, as well the willingness of doing it are very rare.
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