I have noticed I am pretty quiet during sex and afterward. The girl I just started seeing commented on it too. Until recently I havent been all that experienced so I think during sex Im focused on what Im doing. And afterward I just feel relaxed and comfortable just laying there. But if girls want me to be more verbal I am willing..any tips?
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I am quiet during/after sex
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Posted 4 months ago
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As you naturally become better and better at sex, you will relax and get out your head mire easily. A thing to have fun with (not try) is to learn to talk dirty. Engage her mind as well as her body. Clearly it's hard to know what you're doing based on what little you said, but I'm guessing it's good, but could be better. Dirty talk can help you during sex, but as for after, it depends.
If you fuck her so hard that she quickly goes to sleep, then it's not a big issue. If you're not, the try sitting up in bed against the headboard more so that she is leaning on you but can't see your face easily. Kinda like this, but maybe in more of a sitting position: http://comps.fotosearch.com/comp/GSH/GSH500/couple-cuddling-bed_~gs371061.jpg
Reason being, it makes it look like you're more attentive and not asleep. As for what to talk about, it depends. Naturally people feel differently after sex, but you're likely both feeling good and relaxed so keep it light and fun. Depending on how you feel, you might use this time for small feedback. Don't ask things like "did you cum" or " how was it", but rather " What part did you enjoy the most". I would even recommend going first: " babe, I really like it when you ____ because it makes me feel ___"
The key is to relax and get out of your head. You just fucked/made love to a woman, guys everywhere are envious, she feels more connected to you, and you're ... thinking about what to say? If you feel silent, say it in a way that's positive. " you leave me speechless... everytime we make love, you make me feel so manly next to your beauty". I just can't find the words to describe what I feel when we're intimately connected like we are now /hold her hands/kiss her
A lot of guys would be happy to have your problem :P
Posted 4 months ago -
Don't be bothered about what you or a girl says it's meaningless post sex natural drug induced stuff.
Never compliment a girl during or immediately post sex it makes them think they are 'special' and the sex act is a special one. Know what you think deserves praise and only praise when that happens - for me it probably would be if they took my load in their mouth, on their face or tits. Standard sex-no compliment. An excellent blowjob-possibly.Sex causing me to passout - almost definitely
Be more concerned with your conversation post sex later when that natural high from the drugs released in your brain through sex has gone
Strangely I don't think I've ever gone straight to sleep post sex, well not first time.
Posted 4 months ago -
As you naturally become better and better at sex, you will relax and get out your head mire easily. A thing to have fun with (not try) is to learn to talk dirty. Engage her mind as well as her body. Clearly it's hard to know what you're doing based on what little you said, but I'm guessing it's good, but could be better. Dirty talk can help you during sex, but as for after, it depends.
If you fuck her so hard that she quickly goes to sleep, then it's not a big issue. If you're not, the try sitting up in bed against the headboard more so that she is leaning on you but can't see your face easily. Kinda like this, but maybe in more of a sitting position: http://comps.fotosearch.com/comp/GSH/GSH500/couple-cuddling-bed_~gs371061.jpg
Reason being, it makes it look like you're more attentive and not asleep. As for what to talk about, it depends. Naturally people feel differently after sex, but you're likely both feeling good and relaxed so keep it light and fun. Depending on how you feel, you might use this time for small feedback. Don't ask things like "did you cum" or " how was it", but rather " What part did you enjoy the most". I would even recommend going first: " babe, I really like it when you ____ because it makes me feel ___"
The key is to relax and get out of your head. You just fucked/made love to a woman, guys everywhere are envious, she feels more connected to you, and you're ... thinking about what to say? If you feel silent, say it in a way that's positive. " you leave me speechless... everytime we make love, you make me feel so manly next to your beauty". I just can't find the words to describe what I feel when we're intimately connected like we are now /hold her hands/kiss her
A lot of guys would be happy to have your problem :PThe pic is laughable - it should be sweaty naked bodies entangled in some messy position
Posted 4 months ago -
Like almost everything else, it takes some practice to get comfortable with talking dirty and making noise during sex.
It's really important because a woman wants to know that she is turning you on. It can actually creep her out if you don't make enough noise during sex.
Men get turned on by women, and women get turned on by your desire for her.
When in normal conversation with a woman, you want to be careful about too many compliments and over-validating her, particularly in a physical way. However, when you're in bed with her, that's a perfect time to be complimentary.
Let her know how much she is turning you on and driving you crazy. Voraciously devour her sexually. Get caught up in the moment.
What do you say? There are actually a lot of things you can say during sex. Don't try to get super creative or clever.
Here is a diagram: Things to Say During Sex. This diagram is actually a big joke about what not to say during sex. But under things to say, most of it is pretty good.
Another thing to think about during sex is to be more communicative. You have to feel it out, but some girls like it if every once in a while you snap back to reality and just say something like "Hey you," and smile at her.
You can even banter with her once in a while. Particularly when it's leading up to sex, if you're getting really into it and things are hot and heavy, don't be afraid to break the tension a little bit.
One time a girl was going down on me and she coughed on her way down. I yelled at her in a joking way, "I can't believe you just coughed on me! Now I'm going to get your girl cooties!"
Eric
Posted 4 months ago -
Excellent posting a good help for preparation of 1st time meeting. You explain in comprehensive way all aspect of that meeting. Keep on good posting
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