The thought enters into your mind for a split second: Talk to her.
But you don’t. Why?
It costs too much. You’ve paid the price before. Too many times.
You don’t want to feel the way you did the last time you approached a girl.
And the time before.
This is simple economics. The economy of emotions. You don’t want to feel that inevitable rejection. You have your dignity and you don’t want to lose it.
So you keep walking.
And that’s all you have, is your dignity.
And you have been exiled. You are shunned to the sidelines of life. Doomed to watch.
Good for you. You’ve got your dignity.
But like holes in a leaky boat, you keep plugging it up with lame excuses.
Why.
Why.
Why can’t I do this?
You know why you don’t put yourself out there?
I’ll tell you why.
You’ve experienced the pain of learning.
All of it.
And let me tell you, you have learned enough. On top of the pain of rejection, you were alone.
And still are.
Why should you put yourself out there to keep learning the same mistake over and over?
That approach can take a thousand faces, but they all look familiar: rejection.
Experience is not always the best teacher.
When you found the community, guys who could change that, you found hope.
And you read. A lot.
But it’s not enough to read. No matter how much logic I pour into your head, it will be impossible to truly become confident until you have the right kind of experience.
It is impossible to become confident until you work with people that can show you how to put smiles on girls faces when you walk up to them.
Coaching is expensive. And there’s a reason for that.
As a coach, we work with you, put ourselves in your shoes so that you can get into ours.
The first step is to start getting some kind of positive reaction in social situations.
If all you are getting is negative experiences, you need to find someone that can help you change that.
A while ago, there was a cute girl at one of our intro seminars, a girlfriend of a coach. We were discussing how it’s impossible to learn this stuff from just reading, and she brought up a great point: These are social skills. You can’t learn social skills by just reading.
Seems obvious, doesn’t it?
Social skills are learned by experience: the right kind of experience.
Watching people who do it well.
Role-playing.
Having someone there with you who can give you feedback and tell you what you need to do.
With my Charismatic Confidence Mentoring Program, I work with you to get the kind of results you want to get.
You learn first-hand the skills you want to learn and you understand what to expect every step of the way from someone who’s been there, someone who’s experienced as much anxiety as anyone out there–and got past it.
Stop letting those opportunities pass you by.
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