Everyone Else Has Had More Sex Than Me

by Eric Disco
Jul 2

Everyone else has had more sex than me
Anyone else get that feeling?
Teenagers, naked, couple in trees;
Grandparents swing from the ceiling;
Everyone else has had more sex than me

How do you stay motivated when it seems that there is so far to go?

Some of the guys I’ve worked with are virgins. They’ve never had sex before. You wouldn’t think it from looking at them.

It can be daunting sometimes. There are a lot of great people out there to learn from. Some guys I run with are AMAZING with women. They can do things that would make your head spin.

Spend an hour with a guy who really knows what he’s doing, and your reality explodes.

There is a lot to learn. And it’s an exciting adventure. But it can also be daunting, thinking about how far you have to go.

Who am I? Look at this body! I’m defective! It seems like these guys were born with that ability. It seems like other guys have so much more than me.

The good looks, great physique, great sense of style, money, all that stuff pales in comparison to seeing the long path ahead when you attempt to change your own beliefs and behaviors.

So how do you stay motivated when it seems there is so far to go?

Appreciate every victory.

Learning to appreciate your successes is one of the most important things you can do. If you can learn to appreciate the tiny changes, the huge ones take care of themselves.

Perhaps you’ve never kissed a girl before, and you are finally able to do that. Enjoy it! Enjoy her! There is nothing more important you can do! It’s a beautiful and engaging experience.

I look back over the relationships I’ve been in and I see A LOT of mistakes I’ve made. Things that make me cringe. How could I be like that?

But the biggest thing I would regret is not appreciating her enough when she was around. Being in the moment with her.

Appreciating what makes her unique from all the other girls out there. Letting her in. Really listening to her. Finding out something about yourself that you never knew before.

She brings that light into your life.

You don’t have to be the Daddy of the Mac Daddy to be able to appreciate that. It doesn’t matter if you are a virgin or not.

I’ve had some bad sex before.

And there other are times when I’ve done what people would consider NOTHING with a girl–where she’s teased me for two hours–and it was more mind blowing than any physical consummation could have been.

Don’t worry about the sex. It will come. Learn and grow and improve, but stop comparing yourself to other people. Be easy on yourself.

Your time with her is unique to all the interactions in the world, no matter how it turns out. It’s special and should be treated as such. No one can touch that, no matter how good they are.


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