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Apr 1

Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever? Why does good intimacy not guarantee good sex, contrary to popular belief? Can we want what we already have? Why is the forbidden so erotic? What is it about transgression that makes desire so potent? For

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Dec 25

At some point, you realize that what you’re doing just isn’t working. You’re too tame, too friendly, too passive, and too nice. Too many opportunities are slipping through your fingers because you aren’t making the move. So you learn new strategies that are edgier, bolder, and more sexual. You start to take risks with attractive

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Mar 1

It’s our first date. We’re sitting next to each other on a couch in a bar. She’s turned, facing me. Showing interest. I’m faced outward toward the bar. She’s amazingly cute. A yoga girl. We’re talking, getting to know each other. I’m teasing her here and there. This girl knows how to talk. She knows

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Jan 6

This is a fun sequence I like to do in conversation. It’s playful and I get to hold her hand. There’s always a point in the conversation where I transition into personal topics. “What do you do?” I ask her. “No–wait,” I say. “Don’t tell me. Let me guess.” I look her up and down.

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Oct 6

This post is brought to you by my good friend “Hurricane” Lee. One of the most pressing questions I get from guys is when to kiss a girl. Do you try to kiss her when you first meet? On the first date? Later? On the one hand, pushing sexual escalation is almost always a good

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Aug 21

The reluctant groom may be more than just a macho stereotype; it may be an in-built evolutionary mechanism that reflects the differences between male and female mating strategies. In How to Get Her to be Your Girlfriend, I talk about why it’s advantageous for a man to not be so straightforward with a woman about

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Mar 15

This post is from Josef via Reddit. I’m a gay man, and I think that’s why I’ve been able to notice these so well. I made this post so hopefully more guys can see it. How a guy can know when a girl is interested: If you’re talking to a cashier and she tells you

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Mar 5

Of all the things I’ve done wrong in the past with women, the thing I regret the most is not making the move. It’s one thing to make a move stupidly, or get rejected, or even fuck it up royally, but not having made the move at all just kills me. About ten years ago,

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Feb 14

It’s great to be physically skilled as a lover, but more importantly, you want to activate the imagination. One of the best ways I’ve found to rev up your sex life is through dirty talk and roleplay. I put dirty talk and roleplay together because they are almost interchangeable. Role Playing She and I are

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Dec 7

In the dark of night in clubs you’ll find them with a look of anticipation in their eyes. Out over the plains of parks and malls you can hear their sexually frustrated groans. Over e-mail, text message and even long distance, they exist, but long for the sweet mercy of closure. Doomed to revolve around

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