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Sep 19

RK, a reader of ApproachAnxiety.com, asks: Could you give some pointers about how to behave when she admits she’s dating someone else but obviously has an attraction for you. I’m regrettably facing this right now and don’t know if I should play along or show my irritation. Regardless of what she tells you, you want

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Aug 21

The reluctant groom may be more than just a macho stereotype; it may be an in-built evolutionary mechanism that reflects the differences between male and female mating strategies. In How to Get Her to be Your Girlfriend, I talk about why it’s advantageous for a man to not be so straightforward with a woman about

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May 25

A friend sent me a clip of a great episode of MTV’s reality show, True Life. The episode is called I Can’t Leave My Boyfriend. Watch it here. The show focuses on two women who can’t leave their astoundingly worthless boyfriends. My favorite part is the relatively hot, 20-year-old blonde named Grace. She’s with a

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Mar 22

I would be lying if I said that most of the time, my primary intention in going out and meeting women is to find a wonderful relationship rather than the raw desire to have sex. But as I talked about in my last post, once you get a taste of that sweet, sweet nectar called

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Mar 18

Love. There’s no feeling like it in the world. When you’re into a girl, everything in your life seems different. Colors seem more vivid. Everything you do has a different purpose. Life seems more worth living. It’s not surprising that Stanford researchers found that the feeling of being in love is extremely addictive. The effects

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Jan 28

Approach Anxiety. A raw, visceral fear that has nothing to do with any logic. There was just something preventing me from walking up to a woman I didn’t know and talking to her. I hated it. It didn’t make any sense. But this inhibition was part of something larger, something that bothered me as much

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Dec 19

“Okay, so I used banter and playfulness to get the girl,” guys ask me, “but at what point can I just relax and let my guard down?” The short answer: Never. Look at it this way, when can you stop being a man around women and just be submissive and sexless? Never. Once you get

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Sep 20

In a previous post, I talked about why you should start all relationships as casual relationships, whether you think you might want to make her your girlfriend or not. But once you are in a casual relationship, seeing her every once in a while, how do you make it more serious? Firstly, let’s talk about

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Nov 30

3 AM. Sunday night. Insomnia. Missing something or someone I can’t have now. 2 PM. Monday afternoon. Pouring rain. Time for my daily outing. My inner wimp grumbles. I grab my boots and my umbrella and head out anyway. I get into the elevator. I say “Hi, How you doing?” to another guy in the

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