All the time I see guys get themselves into bad positions with women.
They turn into the guy who’s constantly asking a girl out for a date and she’s constantly saying no.
They get into relationships where the girl is acting badly but he’s powerless to stop her bad behavior.
Part of the problem here is that men tend to be straightforward. They take her words at face value.
They don’t understanding the difference between implicit and explicit communication.
You go out on a date with a girl. The next day, you send her a text. But she’s already decided she’s not into you.
Explicit communication would be if she texted you back something like, “I don’t think we’re a match,” or “I’m getting a friendship vibe from you.” She explicitly told you how she feels.
Implicit communication would be if she simply didn’t text you back at all. She is communicating to you that she’s not interested but she’s not explicitly telling you she isn’t interested. Read the rest of this entry »
One of the biggest mistakes guys make, over and over, is trying to logically convince women to date them.
They spend an inordinate amount of time demonstrating that they are an appropriate match for her.
For a woman to get involved with you, she must, at some point, take action, even if that means simply responding `yes’ to your initiatives.
That initiative is always based on her feelings.
The decision to not date you may be a logical one or an emotional one.
For example, if she’s experienced, she may deduce that her feelings are being manipulated and she may decide that she does not want to date you.
Or she may not feel emotionally inclined to date you.
But no matter how logical she is, her taking a positive step to get involved with you will always be based on emotion. You may be the perfect match on paper, but if you don’t turn her on emotionally, she won’t say Yes.
Ultimately, she knows that feelings are all that remain in a relationship.
No matter how good or appropriate the proposition, if you don’t feel it right at the beginning, you will never feel it. She can envision feeling less, but she can’t envision feeling more. Read the rest of this entry »
I have been with my partner JUST under a year known her for about 2 months before we started dating.
I believe i am weak at times, i hate her being mad at me, she can crack it over the smallest thing, and usually wont talk to me after that point, sometimes i dont even know what has happened! (whats made her upset) It can be something like not replying fast enough on facebook so she thinks i am to busy to talk to her. and will say goodnight.
its very confusing for me her getting hurt so easy, and to me i dont think i have done anything actually really hurtful to her, its more her feeling insecure.. but when this happens in the past ive tried to msg call all that sort of thing to much, even tho i dont believe i am not in the wrong. its seem to make it worse because then she believes i have done something wrong or why would i call so much.