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Sep 5

Honesty is the best policy it’s been said. But if honesty is the best policy, it would seem there is a right time to be brutally honest and a right time to just keep your mouth shut. The word for it is couth. “I’ve slept with more than five hundred women and about a half

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Aug 27

Both you and her like Rock Climbing, Chess, Pilates, French History and Model Railroading. You’re into the same music. You like the same food. You go the same gym and live in the same neighborhood. Perfect! This is a match made in heaven. But what if you don’t find all these commonalities right away? What

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Jun 19

You want to improve. Your desire is strong. You’re driven. That’s why you’re here. You weren’t happy with what you had in the past. But mostly, you weren’t happy with yourself. You found a way to tap into yourself. You found a path to improvement. You thought that it wasn’t possible before. Perhaps you spent

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Jun 1

About ten years ago, one of my best friends introduced me to a concept that changed my life. We were sitting around in his basement after band practice talking and he told me that he never lies. I didn’t believe him at first. “How can you never lie? Like never ever?” It didn’t make sense

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May 7

It’s the old romance story. The guy fights through all these obstacles, does superhuman heroic things. And then he meets the girl. And he decides to make himself vulnerable to her because he sees something special in her. But what does it mean to actually make yourself vulnerable to another person? Is it the sharing

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May 2

Yesterday, one of my friends said he wants to start going out and approaching twenty girls a day. I respect him and think it’s cool that he has that much drive and ambition. Going out for a number of hours in one day can be a good thing. Your skills will improve a lot. However,

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Apr 23

One of the biggest barriers to guys going up and talking to a girl is what to say after ‘hi.’ They could possibly muster up the courage to walk up to her and say hi, but then what comes next? Have you ever been with a really close friend or family member whom you felt

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Mar 25

The music is banging. Everybody is partying. People dancing on tables. The place is madness. Spring Break Miami. And it’s St. Patrick’s Day on top of that. It doesn’t get any crazier than this. And then I see her. She has dark hair, almost a latin look. With a tight striped grey shirt. Our eyes

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Mar 21

“So I made her smile, now what?” he says to me. This was no small feat for him. It was a workshop in Miami. He had never approached this many women in his life. And he made them all smile. They were attracted to him. But he had nothing else to say after the first

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Mar 7

At the Art of Attraction workshop in New York this weekend, Comcast was filming segments for cable TV. They’d filmed us teaching the guys in workshop. That night they were going out with us to catch the guys in action. I was taking a student out into the field to be filmed on camera. He

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